20 Sep 2016

Is Anger Your Fast Friend?

“Anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die” 

– Gautama Buddha

We all know ‘Anger’ does not do any good to anybody. Almost all of us have dealt with it very closely, either as the recipient, the 'perpetrator' or often both. Then why do we fail staying away from getting angry every off and on? Let’s take a deep dive into what anger is all about and if there is anything we can do to stay away from getting angry at all.

Anger is an emotional reaction and expression to immediately stop the threatening behaviour or another outside force. It is inherent, inborn, habitual and integral part of psyche and personality.

Anger has functional value for survival. Extreme and environmental factors causing anger at home and office / work place are difficult to change. Males have hormone testosterone leading to aggressiveness, possessiveness, sense of ownership, autocracy and dominance. Females have hormone oestrogen giving temperament of tolerance, let-go attitude, forgiveness and modesty. Thus males are naturally more prone to anger.

13 Sep 2016

Financial Planning For Youth

When you are young and earning reasonably more, spending becomes an inescapable habit. There is no brake that can stop your consumerism from growing bigger when you have a credit card! Well, ‘financial discipline’ is the first condition for happy living and enjoying a tension-free, stress-free life. I thought, I must show the ideal way with a few handy tips.

  1. Salary Split: Prepare a list of fixed monthly income and expenses. Keep that amount aside – reserved. On getting salary, one must spare money for the compulsory installments cycles like SIP (Systemic Investment Plan), PPF, etc. and also for the other recurring expenses like utility bill payments, domestic help salary, etc. Most importantly, put aside certain percentage of your salary for the ‘unplanned’ expenses.

24 Aug 2016

Life Without Money (24 Hours x 29 Days x 60 Months)

I know the title create some ambiguity around its meaning. Here’s the story: the author was a medical student studying at Surat during 1969-1974. Being an offspring of a middle class family, all his parents could send him every month was Rs. 100 (One hundred). No doubt, this was more than 25% of his father’s salary and the rest 75% was to be spent by remaining nine members of the family. So, I used to receive Rs. 100 by MT (money transfer) at Bank of Baroda, Vanita Vishram (Surat) branch. Now this amount was exhausted in total on day one itself – so the remaining 29 days of the month had to be spent without any money – ‘zero balance’ stage, for all five years of the under graduation. This makes the story title "Life without money - 24 hours x 29 days x 60 months"!

17 Jun 2016

My Awakening Of The Great Indian Tribal Hospitality

An  Aadivasi girl Sangita at Naahari Hotel, Pangarbari (near Wilson Hills, Gujarat) teaches us the Indian culture and way of welcoming guests!

On 15-Jun-2016, my friend Sanjay Mahant and I visited a scenic hill-station in South Gujarat – Wilson Hills (near Dharampur). We wandered during the noon enjoying the view of the hill-station and chitchatting. We just did not think of the time while experiencing the pleasing wind and the nature.

Rare Story Of A Charity School For Tribal Girls

This is a rare story of how a person from Valsad (Gujarat) turned into someone serving Aadivasi (tribal) girls far away from his home in the interiors of the Dharampur forests.

Naresh Ramanandi, my friend Sanjay Mahant’s brother-in-law, is a dedicated follower of Shri Rang Avadhoot Bapji of Nareshwar. Bapji once told, I shall take rebirth as an Aadivasi. So in search of Shri Avadhoot Bapji, Nareshji opted to reach this area and thought of some service activity.

16 Jun 2016

Fortuitous Visit To Wilson Hills

It was a Thursday, otherwise a working day at my hospital, but I chose to declare it a holiday because my friend Sanjay Mahant and I asked each other to go for an event at Kanya Chhatralaya, Vagavad (near Dharampur, Gujarat). In turn, surprise visit to this hill-station materialised on 15-June-2016.

One of the less visited hill-stations and waiting to be developed for tourist needs, this is one of the best hilly places I have ever seen. If you want to share nature in a less crowded, say lonely place, Wilson Hills is for you. This 2500 feet high place is 25 km away from Dharampur and 130 km from Surat. We can easily reach here by very good roads in the scenic Western Ghats.

20 May 2016

My Facebook Sparkles - May 2016

  • Mouth Must Actively Be Kept Closed!

2 May 2016

Why Do We Not Respond?

We receive messages in conversations and communications, and a reply or at least some response is expected by the sender. But more often than not, this replying does not take place. Even we are unaware of this and find no problem with this attitude. We do not feel sorry for not responding. I asked why this happens and this article is the outcome of the said question.

While talking, someone asks a question and waits for the reply with frustration of getting none. Similarly we receive letters, messages on mobile phone, Whatsapp, Facebook, e-mails, Twitter and many other methods we use on the internet. Everywhere, the ‘replying’ is surprisingly missing. You will be surprised to know, the reasons are either absent or practically insignificant-trivial. Even when one remains absent at a wedding, birthday party, marriage anniversary, inaugural function or any such important occasion where he/she was invited, they do not convey any message of greeting and regarding his absence.

2 Mar 2016

Where Do You Meet Your Friends?

We are social animals. We have friends and relatives. Being socially attached, we need and desire to meet them. So the question is: Where do you meet them now-a-days?

Well, honest and multiple answers to this simple question are quite simple. Let me enumerate the list of present day meeting places.

22 Feb 2016

Rahul & Shivani's Wedding

One has to marry, because the law does not allow a man-woman physical relations at random and society has laid certain norms of man-woman staying together. Though liberate present-day scenario allows live-in relations and physical relationship without much fuss, marriages are unavoidable.

Whatever smartness or intelligence one has, to decide the probable attitude of future partner is difficult. So for continuation of a marriage, adjustment and compromises are must, compulsory. Divorce is no answer to all mismatches.

Once decided to marry, the second question arising is the method – the technique of the wedding. How many persons to be invited, the place of the wedding, the menu and its preparation and the details of the function is the subject of this article.