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How To Manage Your Thoughts?

Our mind is nothing but a flow of thoughts, just like a river with flowing water. One’s personality is shaped by one’s thoughts. If our thoughts are good, we feel happy and radiate confidence and charm around us. Paying attention to managing one’s thoughts is a must. But, how to do that?


1. Keep Calm and Keep It Calm

Cultivate calm and quiet mind by reducing the number of thoughts. Be decisive, disciplined and do not give in to whims of fancies. For this, you should keep yourself busy at all times. Stay busy with constructive, righteous thoughts. Desires, anger, greed, dilemma, jealousy and vanity are our enemies to be conquered. Remember, (1) Repeated exposure to noble thoughts and ideas, (2) Company: the powerful effect of bad company is capable of snatching away all your good qualities.

Satsanga
  • No attachment 
  • Freedom from delusion 
  • Freedom from desires 
  • Perception of truth 
  • Liberation state

Through satisfaction (holy company) is attained the non-attachment, which leads to freedom from delusion, that leads to clarity of perception, freedom from desires, and ultimately to the perception of truth to liberate state!

A weak mind is always agitated and destructed while a strong mind is tranquil at all times.


2. Introspect to Improve
  • Introspect daily
  • Detect diligently
  • Negate ruthlessly
  • Substitute wisely
  • Grow steadily and ultimately 
  • Be happy

Introspection: is the watching of one’s own thoughts and emotions so as to understand the source of all distractions and mental turmoil.

Practice introspection 10 minutes, both in the morning and evening every day. Watch our thoughts without any reactions whatsoever. No censure, No criticism.

Simply accepting the way we are and making no efforts to change. Just watching the thoughts flow in and out of your mind.

Introspection strengthens us to face life’s great challenges.


3. Tragedy Management

All of us have to face tragedies at some time or the other. For some, the experience comes early in life, while for others later on. We need not resort to drug abuse or alcoholism, but we need to shake off the unhappiness and move on in life. We need to use tragedy as an opportunity to strengthen ourselves and build our character.

Adverse reactions often dishearten us and make us cynical. Here, introspection makes us realise that the world has no power to influence us unless we allow ourselves to be influenced.

You must repeatedly refuse to give consent to evil tendencies – through this process of introspection; you can strengthen your will power and discrimination.


4. Know the Ultimate Goal of Life

Worldly ambitions or let’s say material goals, academic qualification, respectable career, marriage, progeny, creation of wealth, and so on… Are they the ultimate goal of life? We want all these because we have underlying belief that by working hard and achieving some position is important in social life. Through this, we will achieve a state that is different from present one. Happier, freer, more peaceful and less miserable state.

Are we sure of happiness and satisfaction after earning so much money and social respect? No. It is just like chasing a mirage in a desert.

When we achieve any one of the big dreams, we wrongly assume that we have found the ultimate goal of life. But we soon realise this joy is impermanent and set out to pursue yet another goal with some idea of finding satisfaction.

Actually, feeling incompleteness within each one us implies us to seek material goals. All such goals are only intermediate. Because the only ultimate goal, the purpose of life is God realisation. God Realisation alone can give us the uninterrupted peace.

Arrogance and ego, often found in the successful people hinder progress. A few more rupees do not enhance a person’s ultimate value.

With perseverance and dedication, we shall reach the goal today or tomorrow. Patience pays.


5. Curb Your Jealousy

Jealousy is a desire of self-importance, especially in comparison with others. Jealousy is caused by cut-throat competition, modern day stress and negative influence of fast life.

A jealous person is never at ease. He is in constant discomfort, is ever discounted and can never appreciate the good qualities of others.

Sleep, hunger, and blood pressure are affected.

Manage your jealousy:
  1. Stop making prejudiced and negative comparison with others. 
  2. Learn to appreciate that other people can also be good and important.
  3. Learn to be content with what you have. Each one has his own place in the society and each one is great in his own place. 
  4. Balance the use of mind and intellect.
  5. Practice introspection. 

Accept the truth that he or she may be better in some aspects while we are better in something else.



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