Why Do We Not Respond?

We receive messages in conversations and communications, and a reply or at least some response is expected by the sender. But more often than not, this replying does not take place. Even we are unaware of this and find no problem with this attitude. We do not feel sorry for not responding. I asked why this happens and this article is the outcome of the said question.

While talking, someone asks a question and waits for the reply with frustration of getting none. Similarly we receive letters, messages on mobile phone, Whatsapp, Facebook, e-mails, Twitter and many other methods we use on the internet. Everywhere, the ‘replying’ is surprisingly missing. You will be surprised to know, the reasons are either absent or practically insignificant-trivial. Even when one remains absent at a wedding, birthday party, marriage anniversary, inaugural function or any such important occasion where he/she was invited, they do not convey any message of greeting and regarding his absence.


Why does this happen?

I have few sparkles of reply!

• Sometimes the person concerned has not heard your question, because even while talking with you he/she was not attending the dialogue at all or he/she might not have received your letter or communication at all.
• Many people do not have any habit of replying at all! May be they feel shy replying because of their poor writing skills or communications skills in general.
• Many do not even recognize the need to reply, because they do not feel responding is a must. They do not know it to be a bad courtesy/manner. They think true reply will not be acceptable, so "No reply” is the best reply.
• There is also a tendency to ignore anything and everything, be it a reply or any matter.
• Last but the most important reason is that this is their way of insulting and irritating you.

With this in mind let us search for the reasons for poor response on electronic media (i.e. Whatsapp, Facebook, Email, etc.):

• The account was opened by some other person and the person in question is completely unaware of this.
• He may have opened the account himself, but then he lost interest or does not know how to operate and send reply.
• He only enjoys the emails or messages by observing or reading them, but does not have any desire to respond and express himself.
• His internet connection does not work or mobile battery is fused – vague but a practical reason.
• He is not interested in you and any of your activity. He wants to insult you by ignoring your presence. He has blocked your name and any post will not be visible to him!
• He is really busy in his social engagements at home.
• He is out on vacation and out of station.
• He is truly busy with his professional work.
• Some serious reasons: He has become blind or, God forbid, he is no more!
• Procrastination: A habit of delaying to reply till long period.

All said and done, if you are not getting reply why not meet personally or pick up the phone and call to find out the real cause?

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