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Comparison – A Dreadful Habit

A self-destroying compulsion, what really is Comparison? We mean it as an evaluation of the similarities and differences of one or more persons/entities to some other persons/entities. So, it is an account of resemblances and contrasts as superior or inferior. We humans have an inherited habit of comparing ourselves with near ones, friends and relatives, usually after considering them to be superior in our imaginary belief.


We constantly and unknowingly go on comparing oneself with the one(s) seen nearby and suffer as being inferior. The truth is opposite and we feel sorry, unhappy and even depressed simply for not being aware of this. We compare about their imaginary physical look, economic status, education, job or professional status, social position, family and what not. And we just do not stop till we start feeling sorry, leaving us disturbed for a long time afterwards.

Let me tell the same story differently. We tend to compare oneself with our immediate nearby available friend, relative or neighbour thinking him to be superior, happier and better. But the fact remains, it is wrong, it is imaginary and not real. If you search in depth about the details, most likely, you would end up finding out that he is neither superior nor happier - as you thought him to be. He may be far more unhappy and in a greater grief, the fact proving the opposite of your drawn picture.

In a present day scenario, people live an artificial life far away from originality, making a show of pomp and happiness at any unbearable cost, giving a wrong impression of their condition in general. Most of the people (with any high income, social/professional position or family situation) are unhappy and in a great need of your sympathy and love.

We do not see our own success, happiness and achievements by relentlessly trying to grow oneself far superior in education, profession or financially, in comparison to others around us.

Happiness is a mental state to be developed and comparison is an obstacle to this. Our own mental peace and total physical fitness are assets a lot of people do not possess. Thus, ignoring ourselves in total and running after the so-called (virtual) greatness of others is a conditioned bad habit. It makes us feel inferior and unhappy without any cause. We have to be cautiously and carefully be aware of this unwanted ailment of comparison.

You are unique. And by the very definition of uniqueness, you are not comparable to anyone. Meaning, you are the best in your own way and thereby nobody is superior to you. In fact, one has to live his own life and there nobody – superior or inferior – is of any help in relieving the pain and suffering due to the physical or social problems.

Lastly, I am tempted to conclude telling this. Ask yourself the following:

  1. Do you get enough food to eat, clothes to wear and shelter to stay? (Roti, Kapada aur Makaan)
  2. Are you physically fit to see, hear, feel touch, walk, eat and talk?
  3. Are you qualified to express yourself, read and write?
  4. Do you possess parents, brothers, sisters, other relatives and some true friends?

If you answer even some questions in positive, you are the one far ahead of most others and no-one can reach your height.

Just stop comparing!


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