Dr. Bharat Desai's Blog

My friend Dr Ashwinbhai Naik  asked me to share my views on the topic 'jealousy' and that created this viewpoint article. Jealousy is an emotion inherited by all of us. It has nothing to do with age, sex, intellectual level or financial status. This emotion is a negative one expressed according to the intensity of the feeling, and that is why some people can hide it even though they have it in the back of their minds.

Over time, I have learnt and practised being accountable and better-organised in day to day life. That makes me disciplined and presentable with honour – any time and every time. I maintain day to day diary for the last seven years recording all the events and emotions. Reading the contents of the 2018 year diary inspired me to write the statement of account presenting activities of 365 days of the year. Daily Routine I consider my day starting at night, 9.30 PM, when I go to bed. I get up around 2:00 to 3:00 AM. That’s when I do my reading and writing work until I fall asleep again. That gives me more than 2 to 3 hours of study every night. I do clinical practice as an ophthalmologist between 9.30 AM to 1:00 PM in the morning and 4.30 to 7:00 PM in the evening. Yes, after lunch, between 1.30 to 4:00 PM there is a compulsory sleep, the classic after siesta, for about two hours. Morning hours, between 7:00 to 9.30 AM are “no work” time, spent in getting ready, reading newspapers...

We understand, only bacterias, viruses and fungi spread infection and they are contagious. But there are many behavioural factors that lead to their own spread, and we do not notice them. Actually, behavioural matters spread faster than we think.

I am happy to address my readers once again with a very important subject of day-to-day problems: Stress. Stress is a force that strains and deforms. People, events and circumstances take over you, and create stress. It is a physical expression of emotional insult. Emotions like Fear, Guilt, Shame, Anger, Worry, Guilt and Doubt lead to stress.  That practically covers every normal, routine emotion. Then, how can we deal with stress?

As we know, a birthday comes once every year. We are not talking here about many birthdays a year for some secret reasons. And it is a story of the past when nobody was aware or cautious about remembering, greeting or celebrating the birthday and the said day was passing unnoticed just like any other day. Greetings and celebrations are must nowadays for many causes like birth, marriage, inaugurations and getting some award, appreciation success. And so birthday celebrations are a must. I want to talk about ways and time of birthday greetings and emotions that followed.

George Carlin (Age 102) has this to say about LOVE and LIFE: Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity. The only person who is with us our entire life is oneself. Love thyself the most. Surround yourself with people you love. Keep only cheerful friends. Laugh often, long and loudly. Enjoy simple things.

To hate someone is easy. To abuse someone is even easier. To insult someone is the easiest. How to manage it? I am not talking about power of mind, personality development, positive thinking, yoga or many other such things. It can be read or heard elsewhere. I am describing my present thought-cycle. Why not love? Why not ignore? Or why not accept the individual in one's original form? If reacting is inevitable, be brief.

When I see someone, my senses form one opinion and accordingly, I start reacting.I start loving and respecting the said fellow  without reasons or its opposite. The friend-circle gets formed this way. That is the reason why some of your contacts who are most of the time with you, are never your friends.