Dr. Bharat Desai's Blog

As far as you are sharing your views, events and a few of your photos, everything is fair enough and natural. If you are too much eager to ask for so many likes, comments and sharing your presentation, frustration is imminent!

We receive messages in conversations and communications, and a reply or at least some response is expected by the sender. But more often than not, this replying does not take place. Even we are unaware of this and find no problem with this attitude. We do not feel sorry for not responding. I asked why this happens and this article is the outcome of the said question. While talking, someone asks a question and waits for the reply with frustration of getting none. Similarly we receive letters, messages on mobile phone, Whatsapp, Facebook, e-mails, Twitter and many other methods we use on the internet. Everywhere, the ‘replying’ is surprisingly missing. You will be surprised to know, the reasons are either absent or practically insignificant-trivial. Even when one remains absent at a wedding, birthday party, marriage anniversary, inaugural function or any such important occasion where he/she was invited, they do not convey any message of greeting and regarding his absence.

We are social animals. We have friends and relatives. Being socially attached, we need and desire to meet them. So the question is: Where do you meet them nowadays? Well, honest and multiple answers to this simple question are quite simple. Let me enumerate the list of present-day meeting places.

Activeness on Facebook, Whatsapp, Twitter and Blog If you want to be active on all these social media platforms, do so. Do not hesitate. Do express all you want. But... Be prepared for poor or zero response/feedback. The expectation of active communication may lead to frustration... depression.

Facebook Friends More the number of friends, more the time needed to see their updates and respond. Sometimes, one feels it is a waste of time. So better avoid unknown, half-known and the friends of friends types. What is the ideal maximum number?

Addiction Internet users with Facebook, Whatsapp, Emails and what not, very well know the (usefulness and) uselessness of the continuous connectivity and still can not stop the wastage of time in this activity. Just like the addicts of alcohol, smoking and tobacco chewing...

Addiction to be attended to as an emergenc y Beware if you are seeing in your mobile/computer while being with someone talking to you. You are missing a great real moment for virtual reality and showing a great insult to the people around. This is internet addiction needing urgent attention. Real life relationships and persons around are more important than distant imaginary 'virtual' world.

Computer users having internet connection are most of the time restricted to Social Media like "Facebook" or just reading E-mails received. Here is a book for them to teach all the details on the subject. Author Raghu Pandey (an Expert on the Internet)  has spent more than 18 months in preparing this book to make us understand the subject in the most simple and easy way. This is a book for all! Raghvendra “Raghu” Pandey I personally know Raghu - the author - for more than a decade now. His way of living life has impressed me in many ways. He is open to experimenting with life on himself and for that earning money is just a byproduct. The intense desire to teach students the subject Internet has made him spend nearly one and half a year to write this book. Let me say: it was this virtue of doing social service for self-satisfaction and desire to express knowledge in the simplest and easy to understand the way that led him to write this book.

Facebook activeness demands offering/sharing your views and getting the responses from your FB friends. If you do not share anything, all you are left with is responding your friends views.

Expectations from "Facebook Friends" : Do share your thought-cycles, emotions and events... friends expect that! Do respond to the post you see on your home page by comments and whatever you feel like... That is a must for any friendship! Do send your greetings on birthdays, wedding anniversary and other important events... If you do not feel like posting to someone, he/she is not your friend, better delete that name. Do not share too many quotes, songs or articles; they make the home-page filled with such materials, and important messages get hidden... think over this, it is important. If someone else has opened your Facebook account for you and you are never operating it, better ask the same fellow to delete the account. Your friends may not know about your passivity!

When one writes post/comment to express one's views on Facebook, one is addressing a big number of audience - friends, colleagues and others. So it is prudent to be careful about spelling, grammar and punctuations or it will look insulting your friends. It will show as if you are attending party without proper make-up!

Facebook users grading, in my opinion: Expresses one's views on different subjects and responds to friends with comments. Only gives comments to Facebook material by friends. Only clicks like button when likes, but does not tell one's views Opens Facebook and reads, but then silent. Never sees Facebook, someone/oneself has started FB account, that's all!

I see my friends on Facebook active, even hyperactive, for sometime and then inactive or say silent for a long gap to appear again. Is it a mood variation from euphoria to depression that is the cause or other engagements elsewhere? What do you think is the reason?

Privacy and Security Advisers tell, follow this while being on social networking (Facebook, Twitter, etc.): Avoid putting photos showing details of home Don't give your travel/tour programme in details Don't disclose your whereabouts Avoid giving contact details like address, mobile and E-mail

Parents and Children on Facebook : If all the concerned are transparent and so open to have any dialogue, if each can talk freely without fear or hesitation, 'friendship on Facebook' is not a problem. Well, all have to be frank and open is a pre-condition or better be away from here, as otherwise also they are!

Cyberworld and You - Part 2 Facebook Here I want to conclude my first article on the same subject with important closing remarks. I have tried to describe four signs of the DISEASED person - they may or may not apply any of us!

Cyberworld & You - Part 1 Social Networking - An Addiction FACEBOOK MYSPACE ORKUT TWITEER HI5 FRIENDSTER BABO ...and so many so called social networking websites.

Assume you are being monitored all the time and behave accordingly, be it chat, social media, Email or any move on internet. This will make you disciplined, in the virtual life. I know this is equally true for anything in life!

This is a platform to express yourself uninhibited. The readers are friends chosen by you. Why not tell your views, have a mental catharsis and relax? Friends are one who are eager to read your story, share it and be with you.