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Family Reunion 2021

My daughter-in-law Shivani has seen many family get-togethers during the last decade at her paternal home town - Dungri. So she wanted a similar gathering with the family in Bilimora. We four i.e. Bhavana, Vaishali , Rahul , and I were reluctant to hold one without any cause. Ultimately, we thought of trying this at least once, and so we decided to hold our Sharada Mohan family 's first " Family Reunion " on 24-25 January 2021, Sunday-Monday. A family is a unit of people formed naturally by brothers and sisters of the same parents. A family can be extended by adding uncles and aunts (Kaka, Fui, Mama, Masi) with their offspring. Thus, a family comprises the people who love and support the members in good and bad times. We tried to meet for two days and one night thinking it would be enough time - neither too short nor dragged. Yes,  we were happy and enjoyed ourselves all the while. To finalise the venue, we initially Anaval Shukleshwar Dham and Saidham, Majigam. The cle

Mother Is Mother

My mother passed away on 6 Oct 2010. I can say I was with my mother till 60 years of my life. Prof. Sandhyaben Bhatt (Bardoli) sent me her article on her mother and asked me to tell her about my mother. But I was reluctant to spell a few words here and there about my mother because I was considering her beyond words. Anytime, I was remembering her and praising mother is always inadequate and much less compared to the mother’s dedication for her offsprings.

લગ્નજીવનની સમસ્યાઓ: કારણો, અસર અને મારા ઉપાયો

છૂટાછેડા (Divorce) : છૂટાછેડા એટલે કાનુની રીતે થયેલ લગ્નનો અંત (Divorce is the termination of a legal marriage) Without marriage, there is no divorce Marriage can be easily done but not divorce Marriage is not decided in heaven; marriage is a result of one’s hurriedly made mistake Life is more important than marriage. So, if you are convinced about the failure of a marriage, end the marriage, but not the life. કારણો Financial Crisis: નાણાં કમાવાની અશક્તિ ને કારણે નાણાનો અભાવ Domestic Violence: ઘરેલુ ઝગડાઓ અને મારામારી. પતિ કે પત્ની દ્વારા અપમાનજનક વર્તન Denied (refusal) of a Sexual Relationship: શરીર સંબંધ ની મનાઈ અથવા વિરોધ Lack of Mutual Respect: પરસ્પર માન-સન્માનનો અભાવ Lack of Love: પરસ્પર પ્રેમ Extramarital Relationship: લગ્ન બહારનો શરીર સંબંધ આ પરંપરાગત કારણો સિવાયના હાલનાં કારણો ભણેલી, કમાતી અને આર્થિક રીતે સ્વાવલંબી સ્ત્રી (Feminism and Women Empowerment): લગ્ન જીવનનાં પાયામાં રહેલાં Adjustment and Compromise ભુલીને સાધારણ નાની-નાની તકલીફો પણ અસહ્ય બતાવીને લગ

Our Old Age Home Stay Experience

We planned a week’s visit to an old-age home in Lonavala, in a group of ten from Bilimora between 7 and 14-Mar-2019. Dr. Pravin Gilitwala led the team and organised because he had been there numerous times. Dr. Bhavana Desai (my wife) and I were little uncertain about the venue and timetable there but agreed just to have a new experience altogether. To our surprise, everything turned out to be better than all we thought. We had a great time all in all! Kapol Sanatorium, Lonavala Just by the old Mumbai-Pune highway is situated this old-age home for fixed one week stay. Only old-age people above 60 years are invited to stay for a week starting every Thursday and ending the next Thursday, in a total number of hundred. There are AC and non-AC rooms available for fixed one week, at different rates. These are twin-sharing rooms charged at is Rs. 6,000 and Rs. 12,000 per week, based on individual preferences. The rooms are like single bedroom apartments with four beds, dining table and

દિકરીના અવિચારી લગ્ન અને મા–બાપ: અભ્યાસ લેખ

સાધારણ રીતે, દીકરીના જન્મના વધરામણા સાથે જ તેના લગ્નના મંગળમય દિવસનું આયોજન મા બાપ શરૂ કરતાં હોય છે. પૈસા બચાવતા થઈને ભાવિ જમાઈ વિષેના દીવાસ્વ્પ્નોમાં રાચવા માંડે છે. પણ આ બધાં વચ્ચે મા બાપ પોતાની મરજી, પોતાની સંમતિ અને પોતાનો નિર્ણય દિકરીના લગ્ન માટે ફરજીયાત સમજતાં હોય છે. તેથી જયારે આવું નથી થતું અને પુત્રી પોતાની મરજીથી મા બાપની પરવાનગી, ઈચ્છા વિરુદ્ધ જયારે લગ્ન કરે છે ત્યારે, મા બાપ ઉપર આભ તૂટી પડે એટલું દુ:ખ આવી પડતું હોય છે. આવું કેમ થાય છે? તે વિષયની અહીં ચર્ચા કરીએ.

On Father’s Day

Parents are important . Because we take birth because of them. They get married (usually)and decide to become parents. They stop anti-pregnancy drugs-contraceptives, they start loving(!) each other and have a physical relationship or sometimes even tolerate the torture of IVF and the end result is the birth of a child - YOU! So, in a time of very late marriages, delayed parenthood and zero-to-one child, to take birth is no accident. The point being, the parents are important and the children should be grateful to them.

When A Daughter Gets Married... Against Parents' Will...

Generally, the wedding of a daughter is event parents plan from the day of her birth. They start saving money and dream about the son-in-law to be. But all these have one condition tagged – “Consent of Parents”. Or say a final decision has to be with and as per the will of the parents. When this does not happen and daughter decides to marry at her own will – against the consent of parents, they get shocked emotionally to its deepest level and this is the subject of my discussion.

Become an iMature Student – A Book On Internet

Computer users having internet connection are most of the time restricted to Social Media like "Facebook" or just reading E-mails received. Here is a book for them to teach all the details on the subject. Author Raghu Pandey (an Expert on the Internet)  has spent more than 18 months in preparing this book to make us understand the subject in the most simple and easy way. This is a book for all! Raghvendra “Raghu” Pandey I personally know Raghu - the author - for more than a decade now. His way of living life has impressed me in many ways. He is open to experimenting with life on himself and for that earning money is just a byproduct. The intense desire to teach students the subject Internet has made him spend nearly one and half a year to write this book. Let me say: it was this virtue of doing social service for self-satisfaction and desire to express knowledge in the simplest and easy to understand the way that led him to write this book.

Pledge On Dasserra '13

Take a pledge this Dasserra: Decide the dates for meeting parents staying away If by chance your parents are staying away from you, fix minimum two to three of these days every year for meeting the parents: Your own birthday Your wedding anniversary New year day morning Holi Raksha-bandhan Makar Sankranti Independence/Republic Day or Any date suitable to you every year

Marriage Workshop

Workshop by parents of a son and/or daughter on marriage is a must. Parents should enlist and explain in details the Do's and Dont's for success of married life. Just having good look, good qualification and good earning does not make a marriage successful. These things can only work as a base for agreeing to marry. Inter-personnel manners, care for each-other and maintaining dignity of relations makes the most important issues. Or failure is certain!!!

Modern Parents And Supra Modern Children

Parents of today have become parents at a high cost of fertilization by IVF and what not. They cannot dream of a second child and so the only one (single) child, though not advisable, is the most precious child. Now, all their expectations, ambitions, failures and frustrations are to be dreamt of on the said child. Because they cannot give enough time for the upbringing - so-called available time is spared for them as a quality time, because of a sense of guilt they have.

Are Old-age-homes Meant For My Parents?

Or if I may ask, are my parents worth sending and keeping in an old-age-home? The need for time demands more and more old-age-homes to be built. Because: Expense: No problem. Monthly payment amount: No problem. Servants, cook and other staff needed: No problem. Whatever has to be done: No problem!

Breaking The Chain Of Relations

Break verb. Interrupt To stop doing something for a while Destroy End of relation Chain noun. Connection by links or rings Series of connected things e.g. hotels, shops Continuous connection due to attachments Relation noun. Way in which one person is connected/associated with another Contacts or link between people, groups or countries Attachment between two because of birth, marriage or contact

Balancing Relations

Balancing two sides of relations: A son/daughter: Parents and offsprings A married woman: Parents and parents-in-laws A married son: Wife and parents When you are any of the above, you are an in-between person. You have to be tricky, cautious and careful person in handling either side maintaining your own views or you will be in trouble. You need not be judging any, but you have to be neutral and caring both.

Void After My Father's Departure

One year back, I was writing about myself in an article Death at 60 . I wrote there I was ready to die at any time, but given a choice, I would like to wait until my father was alive. My purpose for this demand of concession was my desire to support my father morally and physically in his old age. Well, he did not agree to this and went away forever on his own. So, I can loudly pronounce now “I am ready to die!” However, I have yet to learn how to react to someone when I disagree with and/or my ideas differ in total from the concerned person. At present, in such situations, I keep myself away and withdraw myself. It can be labelled as escapism . But coming to consensus or agreement is not always easy. Due to the generation gap or a conservative approach of parents, the difference of opinion is bound to be there. Here, both parties should take care of maintaining the dignity of the other. The ideal option is to ignore the nature of the parents and forgive them immediately.

Parents And Children On Facebook

Parents and Children on Facebook : If all the concerned are transparent and so open to have any dialogue, if each can talk freely without fear or hesitation, 'friendship on Facebook' is not a problem. Well, all have to be frank and open is a pre-condition or better be away from here, as otherwise also they are!

Misguiding Parents Alert

BE ALERT! When either of your parents comment, criticise or say something about your spouse/life-partner in absence of the concerned partner, be alert. They may be wrong or say prejudiced. So be alert, prudent and cautious before discussing this or taking any action against the concerned person.

For Parents of A Married Son

Be cautious in critising the in-laws of your son; he may not like it even if you are right. Avoid being critic with bad taste, you will be the loser. Your son is married and he is neutral to both the sides, non-biased for any.

Father's Reply To A Daughter Married Against His Will

From:    Dr Bharat Desai To:         feedback2jyoti@chitralekha.com Date:      Sun, Jul 18, 2010, at 9:53 PM Subject:  Father's reply to a daughter married against his will, on Father's day. Beloved Prathana, This is a reply to your letter published in Chitralekha direct from the heart of a Father, uncensored.