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On Father’s Day

Parents are important. Because we take birth because of them. They get married (usually)and decide to become parents. They stop anti-pregnancy drugs-contraceptives, they start loving(!) each other and have a physical relationship or sometimes even tolerate the torture of IVF and end result is the birth of a child - YOU! So, in a time of very late marriages, delayed parenthood and zero-to-one child, to take birth is no accident. Point being, the parents are important and the children should be grateful to them.

Father is a struggler. Father and mother are equally important, but the mother is more attached because she takes more physical and psychological care of a child. She tolerates all the unexpected and undesirable insults and forgets soon to love the child and adjusts again for better life. Well, this may not be applied to the father. He is neither superior nor greater to the mother, but he is altogether different. He is a struggler - he wants to do the best for the child. This makes him work hard to earn more and remain away from home and so the children. This desire makes him spend less on himself - he often manages with cheaper clothes, shoes, watches, mobiles, vehicles and what not. He wants to spare the money for his offspring, to offer “the best” to his child. And so, he is a miser when it comes to himself. He wants to save for the education, marriage and later life of his offspring. This aspect of a father is either ignored or not noticed to the extent it should be. And father may be considered indifferent, less caring or less emotionally attached. As a matter of fact, the truth is opposite.

Father is never understood in the lifetime. My father lost his parents at the age of one year, he survived poverty and became a government official. After his marriage, he had six children, a dependent uncle and a sister. A family of ten with low salary and honest, disciplined life. Yes, he struggled successfully, but none of the six of children understood him. We - all of us, feel sorry for the poor appreciation of his struggle, because, he could never explain or display his love. In the desire to build us to be the best and in the process of strict discipline and what not, all he could show was anger. Well, my father was difficult to understand during his lifetime. So, be aware, let this not be repeated with any of you.

How do we treat our parents? Role of parents in our life is poorly understood, because, we get everything we desire easily. They are always available and accessible, they are there round the clock to be with you, to help you and support you.

Parents can be treated rudely because they are always ready to forgive and forget. If not treated rudely, at least they are poorly appreciated for whatever they have done and are still doing. Parents are actually the assets nature has given to you, who treat you with respect and love irrespective of your intelligence, income and reciprocation.

The best is to use this available help, tell your problem, tell your issues causing trouble, express your concern about your own matters disturbing you and you will get the solution.

Father is a son first, then the father. Son is a son forever, whether he becomes a father or not. Now heredity, genetics and biology demand his son to be more intelligent, smarter, say more active to understand than his own father. This word “more” here is a generation gap. To minimize this so-called gap, the father should try to come to the level of his son or accept the son as he is with respect.





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