Dr. Bharat Desai's Blog

Typically marriages are decided by one of these two methods in our society: Arranged Marriage : Socially accepted and practised method where ‘offer’ for marriage is given by appropriate party and then, marriage is finalized on the basis of match-making. Love Marriage : Recently established way of selecting marriage partner after some contact, friendship and/or attraction because of looks. Here prospective partners for marriage decide themselves marry with or without consent from parents and families.

As responsible citizens of this planet, we have some duties towards her - towards our future generations. We all already know about them, I'm sure.

Every relationship needs: Compromise Nurturing and Trust, besides Love

I would like my blog readers to comment the way they understand the following: Good nature  is worth, more than knowledge, more than money and more than any honour to those who have it. - H W Beechar

Break verb. Interrupt To stop doing something for a while Destroy End of relation Chain noun. Connection by links or rings Series of connected things e.g. hotels, shops Continuous connection due to attachments Relation noun. Way in which one person is connected/associated with another Contacts or link between people, groups or countries Attachment between two because of birth, marriage or contact

Balancing two sides of relations: A son/daughter: Parents and offsprings A married woman: Parents and parents-in-laws A married son: Wife and parents When you are any of the above, you are an in-between person. You have to be tricky, cautious and careful person in handling either side maintaining your own views or you will be in trouble. You need not be judging any, but you have to be neutral and caring both.

One year back, I was writing about myself in an article Death at 60 . I wrote there I was ready to die at any time, but given a choice, I would like to wait until my father was alive. My purpose for this demand of concession was my desire to support my father morally and physically in his old age. Well, he did not agree to this and went away forever on his own. So, I can loudly pronounce now “I am ready to die!” However, I have yet to learn how to react to someone when I disagree with them and/or my ideas differ in total from the concerned person. At present, in such situations, I keep myself away and withdraw. It can be labeled as escapism . But coming to a consensus or agreement is not always easy. Due to the generation gap or the conservative approach of parents, the difference of opinion is bound to be there. Here, both parties should take care of maintaining the dignity of the other. The ideal option is to ignore the nature of the parents and forgive them immediately.