My random thoughts on the demise of a mother. What do I
understand while pronouncing “mother”?
I do not need to go far away. I just see so many mothers
around, to name a few, I shall say:
Dr
Bhavana Desai (My wife)
Dr
Amita Desai
Dr
Shefali Naik
Mina Vijay
Desai
And I just see a few single mothers like:
Dr
Indumati K Desai (My mother-in-law)
Vasuben
Radhod (My hospital staff)
And
many more.
What I have learnt about ‘mothers’ from them, is, they are:
For
their offspring in total, forever.
Thinking
about them all the while.
Living
only for them – offering all they have.
Round-the-clock ‘mothers’ and nothing else – ignoring their own identity and
profession.
In so
much love with their children, they ignore any insulting behaviour they get.
I would like to quote some of the famous personalities from Gujarati literature and spiritual leadership.
Morari Bapu:
- Mother
is one who offers all she has – total offering.
- Mother is
a great mixture of forgiveness (Pardon) and compassion (Mercy).
Suresh Dalal:
- Mother is
blind towards her children. And she may not love all others alike.
- Mother
knows all that her child needs, and she will give it even before she/he demands.
Gunvant Shah:
- We miss
seeing what is near to us. And so we never realise a mother’s importance –
thereby we miss acknowledging and appreciating her.
- Mother
has total acceptance for her child, however bad or misbehaving the child is.
She will love and bless to her maximum.
On learning about the demise of somebody else’s mother, I have observed
some people saying, ‘I have never met her’ or even daring to say, ‘I was not
aware their mother was alive at all’. This is too much, and unfortunately not
uncommon.
All we need is to define the list of our close friends and
be in regular touch – visit them as frequently as possible, and be with them.
If you find someone not worth your friendship, forget him. But be sure to
maintain a few intimate-close and total
friends. Loss of touch is a modern-day problem, best avoided.
It was only a few days before you had the last touch of your
mother – the touch before saying the final bye-bye. The last touch means
thereafter you won’t be able to touch your alive mother again.
Well, then to make it alive, love the mothers of others who
are alive. Love, respect and do everything for her that you would have done for
your mother.
We can easily say goodbye to our mother on her last
departure if we have:
Respected her during her lifetime,
Honoured her all she dues,
Not allowing her to be unhappy or weeping because of us…
And still, nothing you do is enough.
Have you served your mother to your satisfaction?
Money. How much is enough? Present time has created an impression that more the money more the happiness. Poverty makes a person inferior in this society, however clever, intelligent, honest and hardworking he or she may be. So, the young generation of the day has clear idea of being rich by earning more and earning at the earliest. So the question arises, how much money is enough money? Before giving the clear cut answer as I am certainly going to do – I would like to tell you the evolution of money.
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