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Father's Reply To A Daughter Married Against His Will


From:    Dr Bharat Desai
To:         feedback2jyoti@chitralekha.com
Date:      Sun, Jul 18, 2010, at 9:53 PM
Subject:  Father's reply to a daughter married against his will, on Father's day.


Beloved Prathana,

This is a reply to your letter published in Chitralekha direct from the heart of a Father, uncensored.


  1. All parents love their children equally, I am no exception. Here in our case, all four daughters are just the same whatever you feel.
  2. In spite of your step of marrying a person not approved by me, you always remain my daughter. My love for you is just the same as it was ever, whether you agree or not.
  3. In fact, I love all the daughters of your age and bless them for their best of luck. Believe me, I have experienced that being nicely reciprocated by all.
  4. You claim to love me than what stops you from coming to me, why do you not write a single letter or contact me by telephone, mobile or internet. I am always ready to accept you as you are with the same love as ever.
  5. I have no ill-feeling for you. Let us forget the past, both of us were wrong somewhere. Let us remain Daughter-Father as we are always so.
With all my love and blessings,

Pappa

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  1. I liked the article (message). However, I'd really love reading the original article/letter to which you sent this reply.

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  2. Yeah Father-Daughter relation is something - only they can understand...

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  3. My eyes are wet... Just a suggestion if not already implemented, why can't father approach the daughter if he loves her so much instead of waiting for the daughter?

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  4. Fuaji, I love the content of this post. It reminds me of this very famous book in Gujarati: Dikri vahal no Dariyo.

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    1. Rahul, Shruti, Twinkle,Paresh and Khushbu:

      In fact,parents-daughter relations are egoless ones.Parents are always ready to forgive and forget. At the time of daughters' marriage at undesired place, they sometimes over-react. It is here that daughter has to be little more egoless or the situation worsens.Well, at a later date, nothing matters and everything is settled.

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