A story of a little known frontier village Mano - Majra (Punjab) - a railway station situated near the bank of river Sutlej dividing India & Pakistan. Here the author narrates the history of 1947 Summer after Partition was declared and frontier elsewhere has become the scene of rioting and bloodshed, but this is the village where Sikhs and Muslims have always lived peacefully and partition did not mean much. Life is regulated by the trains which rattle across the nearby river bridge. One day a local money lender is Kala Ramlal is murdered. Suspicion falls upon Juggut Singh - a gangster having an affair with the Muslim weaver's young daughter Nooran. A western educated communist agent Iqbal Singh comes and does his activity here and stays at gurudwara after meeting Meet Singh - a priest. And one day a train comes from Pakistan full of dead Sikhs and some days later the same thing - a train full Sikhs from Pakistan is repeated. Imam Baksh, Mullah a Muslim spiritual leader at a mosque and all Muslims are asked by Hukumchand, deputy Magistrate, to leave the village and "I am not going to reveal - say" what happens then - it is the heart of the novel.
A few days ago, my mother (84) passed away of old age. I had an experience of being in a state of sorrow due to her demise. The article is an outcome of experiences following the incidence. I did realize the need and importance of true consolation to the grieved person. So I thought it is prudent to write from the heart words giving guidance.
Condolence: It is expressing sympathy to a misfortune or bereavement (one deprived of relative because of death).
Consolation: To give comfort or sympathy to an unhappy person.
On the death of a close relative, a sudden gap is created due to the absence of that relative. Even the mentally strong person understanding every aspect of the event becomes shocked for a while. Here is the need of true consolation known as 'condolence.'
Condolence: It is expressing sympathy to a misfortune or bereavement (one deprived of relative because of death).
Consolation: To give comfort or sympathy to an unhappy person.
On the death of a close relative, a sudden gap is created due to the absence of that relative. Even the mentally strong person understanding every aspect of the event becomes shocked for a while. Here is the need of true consolation known as 'condolence.'

The day you start counting what you have done for your friend/relative, the relationship is either over or about to die. The base of any relation is moral/psychological support, physical work and financial/materialistic help. It has to be endless and beyond counts. Once you start falling short of this, you go finding all such things and expecting reward or reciprocation.
Well, that is the end of relation.
BE ALERT!
When either of your parents comment, criticise or say something about your spouse/life-partner in absence of the concerned partner, be alert. They may be wrong or say prejudiced. So be alert, prudent and cautious before discussing this or taking any action against the concerned person.
When either of your parents comment, criticise or say something about your spouse/life-partner in absence of the concerned partner, be alert. They may be wrong or say prejudiced. So be alert, prudent and cautious before discussing this or taking any action against the concerned person.
Mind your mind! Or you may need a psychiatrist at the earliest.
If you cannot love and respect any one of the following (whatever their nature, economic or intellectual level may be) - Parents, Parents-in-law, Son/Daughter, or Son/Daughter-in-law, consider checking your thought cycle and revise it. Or else, you may be nowhere.
You may lose your most important life support following your method.
We should felicitate the extremists, terrorists, alcoholics, gamblers, etc. type of people around us for their total conviction, devotion to the job they do; total dedication and full attention to the work they have opted. Their character attracts followers and disciples obeying them blindly.
Only after learning these virtues, can we raise our own neck for any garland!
Only after learning these virtues, can we raise our own neck for any garland!
From the recent book review, I presented at Lions Club’s promotional event, as a part of Vanche Gujarat campaign.
The One Minute Apology - Ken Blanchard, Margret McBride
The One Minute Apology - Ken Blanchard, Margret McBride
- A powerful way to make things better.
- A manipulative technique for getting what you want.
- A power of forgiveness to improve or repair relationships, your business and even your home.
Any profit and loss account statement should end with precise brief balance sheet telling what was the final outcome; similarly any detailed report should end with conclusion telling what did you really gained. I will do that.
What did I learn here? I will reply this question precisely. I cannot and do not want to boast of gaining ENLIGHTENMENT, but I can say with full humility, I have learnt a lot. They have changed me.
What did I learn here? I will reply this question precisely. I cannot and do not want to boast of gaining ENLIGHTENMENT, but I can say with full humility, I have learnt a lot. They have changed me.
Raj means kingdom, the place where The King rules. Yoga means meeting, relation or joining together. So, Raj-Yoga is a technique of meditation leading to peace and happiness and thereby uniting oneself with supreme power-soul. The practice of Raj-yoga leads you to happiness for yourself and for those whom you interact by your inspiring source of positivity. The aim of Raj-yoga is to provide a means by which you can become the master of your own mind and your own destiny and thus acquire constant peace of mind.
Reference: Practical Meditation (by Brahmakumaris)Continued from: Karmic Theory (Law Of Karma)
The Law of Karma, of action and reaction, is spiritual sphere and is absolute. It states: For every action there will be an equal and opposite reaction. Opposite, of course, means opposite in direction.
Whatever interactions I have with others, I receive the equivalent in return. This means that, if I have given happiness, I will get happiness in return and if I have given sorrow, I will receive sorrow in return. Thus the law is simple and when understood in full depth, it can give insight into the significance of events in my own world and in world at large.
“Facing Challenges and Creating Destiny” by BK Shivani, Gurgaon
National Conference on Mind-Body-Medicine, Mount Abu.
August 6-10, 2010
Be aware and create/decide your own destiny (Bhagya). Actually, the role of God is to:
Never compromise on inner Happiness for gaining profit, position, or fame.
Write a Karmic account of positive and negative deeds before going to bed (maintain a diary or make a mental note). You have to settle your account. Please, understand a simple thing: good work (Karma) will give good destiny (Bhagya), and similarly, bad/negative deeds bad destiny. It is not a mathematical addition or deduction because both good and bad deeds will give their destiny accordingly, but separately. So BE AWARE and understand you can create/decide your own destiny, just BE POWERFUL enough to write your own destiny, because you have to settle the account.
Law of Karma:
Wrong is wrong whatever logical justification you give to satisfy yourself. And the result will be accordingly. So don’t be a lawyer to argue and prove something wrong as right.
Similarly, right is always right, let the whole world disagree with it. And the destiny will be similarly good. To simplify, one may say whatever good or bad I have done, I will get the result.
When something goes wrong or let us say when a problem, insult, or conflict arises, BE AWARE, CHECK the causative karma carefully and CHANGE yourself. The situation will definitely smoothen.
Soul Consciousness:
Actually, we are not the body (physical form), we are souls. We are eternal and non-destroyable. So change in life is just like changing clothes. Life is a complete journey going on and on. That is why the Karmic account will be carried forward even after death.
All this teaches us the role of ETHICS in life. Live by your values and principles ethically.
If you think, you cannot do that, QUIT.
Be ethical and face the challenge. But never ever say to yourself, I had no choice but to do the wrong.
National Conference on Mind-Body-Medicine, Mount Abu.
August 6-10, 2010
What is Karma?The role of God is to ask you to do Karma and to help you to do the RIGHT karma. Then whatever good/bad karma you do, the result is accordingly and entirely your responsibility. Because the result is Destiny (Bhagya). So don’t blame anyone else or God for anything bad. Do not try to blame someone responsible for your own deed and its result.
Karma is work or energy going out in the form of 1. Thought, 2. Word and/or 3. Action. Resultant return of energy is in the same amount known as Bhagya (Destiny).
Be aware and create/decide your own destiny (Bhagya). Actually, the role of God is to:
- Give us the strength to handle the problem/situation
- Accompany us in solving the issue
- Guide
- Love unconditionally
- Give proper knowledge and
- Pour power to face the situation
Never compromise on inner Happiness for gaining profit, position, or fame.
Write a Karmic account of positive and negative deeds before going to bed (maintain a diary or make a mental note). You have to settle your account. Please, understand a simple thing: good work (Karma) will give good destiny (Bhagya), and similarly, bad/negative deeds bad destiny. It is not a mathematical addition or deduction because both good and bad deeds will give their destiny accordingly, but separately. So BE AWARE and understand you can create/decide your own destiny, just BE POWERFUL enough to write your own destiny, because you have to settle the account.
Law of Karma:
Wrong is wrong whatever logical justification you give to satisfy yourself. And the result will be accordingly. So don’t be a lawyer to argue and prove something wrong as right.
Similarly, right is always right, let the whole world disagree with it. And the destiny will be similarly good. To simplify, one may say whatever good or bad I have done, I will get the result.
When something goes wrong or let us say when a problem, insult, or conflict arises, BE AWARE, CHECK the causative karma carefully and CHANGE yourself. The situation will definitely smoothen.
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| The Karmic Law - Judgment Day |
Actually, we are not the body (physical form), we are souls. We are eternal and non-destroyable. So change in life is just like changing clothes. Life is a complete journey going on and on. That is why the Karmic account will be carried forward even after death.
All this teaches us the role of ETHICS in life. Live by your values and principles ethically.
If you think, you cannot do that, QUIT.
Be ethical and face the challenge. But never ever say to yourself, I had no choice but to do the wrong.
National Conference on Mind-Body-Medicine, Mount Abu.
August 6-10, 2010
Here are my impressions, input and the summary of what I learnt on the given subject, without confusing or making you tired. First, I’ve tried to briefly tell you the points and then added my comments. I’ve tried to see that your interest is maintained.
National Conference on Mind-Body-Medicine
Mount Abu
August 6-10, 2010
Part-I The Journey
Part-II Stay, Food, and Beverages
Part-III Mount Abu in Rainy Season
Mount Abu in Rainy Season
With clouds wandering around you and raining at a different speed, greenery at Aravalli hills is maddening the artist/poet in anybody.
Mount Abu
August 6-10, 2010
Part-I The Journey
Part-II Stay, Food, and Beverages
Part-III Mount Abu in Rainy Season
Mount Abu in Rainy Season
With clouds wandering around you and raining at a different speed, greenery at Aravalli hills is maddening the artist/poet in anybody.
National Conference on Mind-Body-Medicine
Mount Abu
August 6-10, 2010
Part-I The Journey
Part-II Stay, Food and Beverages
Part-III Mount Abu in Rainy Season
Part-IV New Friends
Mount Abu
August 6-10, 2010
Part-I The Journey
Part-II Stay, Food and Beverages
Part-III Mount Abu in Rainy Season
Part-IV New Friends
National Conference on Mind-Body-MedicineMount Abu
August 6-10, 2010
Part-II Stay, Food and Beverages
Continued from Part-I The Journey
Stay at Gyaan Sarovar, Mount Abu
Staying with 9 other persons in the same room - a dormitory - is a rare experience worth trying. You get this experience only at youth hostels trekking programs.
National Conference on Mind-Body-Medicine
Mount Abu
August 6-10, 2010
Part-I The Journey
I was one of the 750 consultant doctor delegates of India, attending this conference between 6 to 10 August 2010. My love for nature and temptation to wander at Abu in the rainy season brought me here. I shall share my experiences of the event with you. I shall describe the academic part and other experiences step by step, with short articles. I invite you to be with me.
The Journey
I was boasting that it was worth being alone, but the pride vanished when the journey began in loneliness and eating alone became difficult.
Bilimora to Valsad was by car accompanied by my wife Dr Bhavana and friend Anilbhai, then Ranakpur Express drove me to Abu Road Railway station. Despite all the comforts and air-conditioning, I could hardly sleep, because, I had to leave the train early morning at 4. Three persons - Dr Bhavana, BK Jagruti, and the coach attendant woke me up, but I was ready long before they tried.
Return was easy, because, getting down was at 6. If the journey is during the daytime, the view can be enjoyed better.
Next in series:
Book Review: Art of Power by Thich Nhat Hanh
Part – III How to develop mindfulness
Part – III How to develop mindfulness
- We think that if we can obtain a certain thing, we will be happy. But when we get them, we continue to crave and suffer.
- Fame, sex, power and wealth are the four kinds of bait that have a hook. If you are motivated by any of the desire, your destiny is suffering.
- To love each other does not mean we sit and look at each other. It means we look in the same direction.
- Do not try to be someone else.
Book Review: Art of Power by Thich Nhat Hanh
Part – II Mindfulness
Mindfulness is the energy of attention and capacity to be 100% present to what is happening within and around us, right here and right now.
Whatever you do, you do with your whole being.
Invest yourself entirely in the here and now, without running away from here and now.
The past is already gone, the future is not yet here. If you miss the present moment, you miss your appointment with life.
We have been taught to do many things at once. Actually, forget this and everything. Instead of multitasking, we must restrict ourselves to 'unitask'.
Part – II Mindfulness
Mindfulness is the energy of attention and capacity to be 100% present to what is happening within and around us, right here and right now.
Whatever you do, you do with your whole being.
Invest yourself entirely in the here and now, without running away from here and now.
The past is already gone, the future is not yet here. If you miss the present moment, you miss your appointment with life.
We have been taught to do many things at once. Actually, forget this and everything. Instead of multitasking, we must restrict ourselves to 'unitask'.
If you are not capable of being in the here and now, you won't be able to recognise yourself, your happiness or your sufferings.
FIVE pieces of training for this:
FIVE pieces of training for this:
- Be aware of the suffering caused by the destruction of life. Not to kill anyone and be a supporter of killers.
- Be aware of sufferings caused by exploitation, social injustice, stealing and oppression.
- Sexual misconduct.
- Loving speech and deep listening.
- Have mindful consumption of drink, eating and consuming. We are what we consume.
It is being present in the present, with full mind-attention.
The Art Of Power
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Book Review: Art of Power by Thich Nhat Hanh
Part – I
Our society is founded on a very limited definition of power, namely wealth, professional success, fame, physical strength, military might and political control. My dear Friends, I suggest that there is another kind of power, a greater power: the power to be happy right in the present moment, free from addiction, fear, despair, discrimination, anger and ignorance. This power is a birthright of every human being, celebrated or unknown, rich or poor, strong or weak.
Part – I
Our society is founded on a very limited definition of power, namely wealth, professional success, fame, physical strength, military might and political control. My dear Friends, I suggest that there is another kind of power, a greater power: the power to be happy right in the present moment, free from addiction, fear, despair, discrimination, anger and ignorance. This power is a birthright of every human being, celebrated or unknown, rich or poor, strong or weak.

A Vietnamese Buddhist Zen master, poet, scholar and peace activist THICH NHAT HANH wrote this book in 2007 to enlighten us on this subject of power and tell us how true power comes from WITHIN. What we seek is what we already have. He walks to talk and to tell us "LET US HAVE THE COURAGE TO BEGIN THIS WITH OURSELVES." To bring happiness to others, we must be happy.
I recently re-read this book Freedom From The Known by J Krishnamurti, edited by Mary Lutyens.
I have gone through the details. I cannot summarize it for you, but as I have told you his thoughts regarding LOVE, now I will tell you some other ideas he told.
1. Seeking for security is inviting insecurity.
2. We human beings are what we have been for millions of years…
Colossally greedy,
Aggressive,
Jealous,
Anxious,
and despairing
with occasional flashes of joy and affection.
I have gone through the details. I cannot summarize it for you, but as I have told you his thoughts regarding LOVE, now I will tell you some other ideas he told.
1. Seeking for security is inviting insecurity.
2. We human beings are what we have been for millions of years…
Colossally greedy,
Aggressive,
Jealous,
Anxious,
and despairing
with occasional flashes of joy and affection.
An introduction video on Refractive Surgeries. Quite primitive and fundamentally useful information for the viewers from all groups.
Cyberworld and You - Part 2Here I want to conclude my first article on the same subject with important closing remarks.
I have tried to describe four signs of the DISEASED person - they may or may not apply any of us!
We are always comparing what we are with what we should be. The 'should be' is projection of what we think we ought be. Contradiction exists when there is comparison, not only with something or somebody, but with what you were yesterday and hence there is conflict between 'what has been' and 'what is'.
There is 'what is' only when there is no comparison at all, and to live with 'what is', is to be peaceful. Then you can give your whole attention to 'what is' within yourself and you can live with it completely.
- J. Krishnamurti (Freedom From the Known)
There is 'what is' only when there is no comparison at all, and to live with 'what is', is to be peaceful. Then you can give your whole attention to 'what is' within yourself and you can live with it completely.
- J. Krishnamurti (Freedom From the Known)
It is the THE RIGHT of a married couple to decide when to be parents and how many times. Parents and parents-in-law must not dictate or suggest about what they wish.In my opinion, ideal is the first child soon after the wedding, second at the earliest convenient time. Late parenthood is complicated and difficult once in a while. Single child is sometimes a problem child.
Life begins with 100 and ends with 0 (zero). The death is the process of zeroing oneself physically (no body), intellectually (no brain, intelligence or thought process) and materialistically (you are owner of nothing). Death is a slow process progressing gradually. The Vedas tell us: up to 50 yrs full social life, 50 to 75 yrs live with family semi attached, and after 75 yrs go for Sannyasa (renunciation).
Can we start zeroing?
Can we start zeroing?
It is easy to fall into the habit of condemning others, even those we love the most. We criticize the way someone eats or the manner in which one speaks. We focus on the most minute details and find fault with the smallest of issues. But what we focus grows to the extent we start feeling it to be a great problem.
Instead, why not begin to respect the differences? Often, we perceive in others the weaknesses we most need to address in ourselves.
STOP BLAMING AND CONDEMNING.
- Robin Sharma
Author of Who Will Cry When You Die
Instead, why not begin to respect the differences? Often, we perceive in others the weaknesses we most need to address in ourselves.
STOP BLAMING AND CONDEMNING.
- Robin Sharma
Author of Who Will Cry When You Die
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