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Loneliness Alert

Alert! When you are staying as a nuclear family, say single pair of husband-wife for long duration, a time comes you start enjoying-loving your privacy and loneliness. And time comes when you don't like any break-breach in that, meaning thereby you start disliking, if not hating, any person around.







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  1. How true! I completely agree with this. Lately with my changed life-style and work-routine, I've learned to live just with myself or with a very small set of close-people that I enjoy with. Anyone outside this group seems like an intruder to me and I have to try very hard to adjust. With this newly adopted life-style (that of enjoying the loneliness) it becomes a little challenging to fulfill obvious social formalities. I really don’t know how good or bad this is, as others may not appreciate the fact; however I really like spending this quality time with myself and makes me feel good.

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  2. I can relate to this more than 100%. And thats why I had posted this article: http://blog.khushbudesai.com/2011/04/all-alone.html.

    Having stayed away from home for more than 5 years, and not being obliged to be a part of any social scenario, now, I have to put in efforts to "fit" into different social groups, especially the ones where I do not enjoy interacting much. Having lived alone has also increased my demands of "personal space". Since I enjoy this space, I do not find anything negative about it, but I do feel that such demands often make one introvert and selective in keep in touch with people. It often becomes difficult when others enter and start dominating this space.

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    1. Dear Khushboo,

      Well, I read your article on Puduchery and responded.
      All I would say is I like loneliness when I am accompanied by persons. And I find it difficult to love the same loneliness when I am alone.
      I think your silence at sea-shore for long time fits in the same concept of company.

      Fuvaji.

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  3. But isn't it difficult to get that loneliness and space when you are with others? Like I had mentioned in my article All Alone, a lot of times, this demand for space in the presence of others is often misinterpreted. For me, this misinterpretation itself becomes an intrusion to your demands of the space.

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