After Parsis, Anavils ( Anavil Brahmins , અનાવિલ બ્રાહ્મણ ) are the fastest decreasing community. The total population of Anavils around the world does not exceed two lakhs figure and that is also fast reducing day by day. Days are not far, beyond a century or so, when they will have to be seen/found in records, photos, and videos. Why? Because, - they get married too late, - many are dying unmarried, - they wait for the career to be settled before the first (and maybe the only) childbirth. So, The number of children per couple is either one or zero. It is certain that nothing can save this community from extinction - vanishing! Let me try to introduce this community. Mr. Klass W VanDer Veen - a Dutch scholar and Professor at Amsterdam University prepared a thesis on "Anavils" and wrote a book "I Give Thee My Daughter ". He concluded, "Anavils are smart, efficient, and clever but heavily disunited....
How true! I completely agree with this. Lately with my changed life-style and work-routine, I've learned to live just with myself or with a very small set of close-people that I enjoy with. Anyone outside this group seems like an intruder to me and I have to try very hard to adjust. With this newly adopted life-style (that of enjoying the loneliness) it becomes a little challenging to fulfill obvious social formalities. I really don’t know how good or bad this is, as others may not appreciate the fact; however I really like spending this quality time with myself and makes me feel good.
ReplyDeleteI can relate to this more than 100%. And thats why I had posted this article: http://blog.khushbudesai.com/2011/04/all-alone.html.
ReplyDeleteHaving stayed away from home for more than 5 years, and not being obliged to be a part of any social scenario, now, I have to put in efforts to "fit" into different social groups, especially the ones where I do not enjoy interacting much. Having lived alone has also increased my demands of "personal space". Since I enjoy this space, I do not find anything negative about it, but I do feel that such demands often make one introvert and selective in keep in touch with people. It often becomes difficult when others enter and start dominating this space.
Dear Khushboo,
DeleteWell, I read your article on Puduchery and responded.
All I would say is I like loneliness when I am accompanied by persons. And I find it difficult to love the same loneliness when I am alone.
I think your silence at sea-shore for long time fits in the same concept of company.
Fuvaji.
But isn't it difficult to get that loneliness and space when you are with others? Like I had mentioned in my article All Alone, a lot of times, this demand for space in the presence of others is often misinterpreted. For me, this misinterpretation itself becomes an intrusion to your demands of the space.
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