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Are You Eligible To Demand Death?

Before demanding death, have you received the "No Objection Certificate" from your children?

At a certain age, a person gets tired of one's life and starts waiting for death. During the lifetime he has passed, it is quite possible he/she had a great career, so-called success and enough earning. But a sense of frustration, unhappiness and dissatisfaction prevails leading to depression demanding the end of the life - death.
Then you have started all the preparation for the farewell to the world – you have arranged for distribution of your wealth amongst the remaining ones by a ‘will’ and donated all that you can dare to do so. Now that everything is ready for your desired event – death, you think you are done and you can go.

Well, it is NOT OK! You are a social animal – accountable, answerable and so, responsible to your offspring. Unless they have boycotted you long back or say deserted you for no justifiable reason, you cannot bypass them. You have to be with them – addressing them and convince them appropriately before desiring death.

You may have one or more of the following reasons for the desire of death:
  1. Loneliness: That of the couple or because of the death of the partner.
  2. The sense of uselessness prevails in physically fit old person. He/she thinks futileness of living and so gradually, he gets upset and so unhappy about events in later life.
  3. Sometimes income reduces to the extent one cannot survive a simple life with basic needs.
  4. Physical disability in form of bed-ridden state with paralysis and painful non-curable terminal diseases like cancer makes one feel desperate.
  5. Sometimes unbearable nature of life-partner of son/daughter or son/daughter themselves.
Having prepared this list of reasons, one has to re-assess the situation, discuss this with one's own children. One should try to persuade the reasons for pain and their management, if possible.

Life in old age demands certain discipline and regulations – one has to restrict oneself in situations where you should avoid giving guidance or non-asked pieces of advice. Economic independence should be maintained if possible, but one should be liberal in helping children monetarily.

In general, children are good and respecting their parents. They want to serve their old parents and give them the maximum luxury of life. And in their attempt to do so, parents have to be cooperative. They will give due respect and obey to a certain limit. They will give all the respectful appreciation – an award to their parents. If you possess one such award, why do you demand to go at all? In certain terminal physical situations, where parents are suffering, children will give "NO OBJECTION" signal and allow one to go – die.

So, do not hurry – get proper "NO OBJECTION" certificate from offspring and your departure then will be the most ideal one!

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