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Or if I may ask, are my parents worth sending and keeping in an old-age-home?

The need for time demands more and more old-age-homes to be built. Because:
  • Expense: No problem.
  • Monthly payment amount: No problem.
  • Servants, cook and other staff needed: No problem.
  • Whatever has to be done: No problem!
Pune or Bangalore?  Even Chhatrapati Shivajirao Bhonsale was confused.

  1. Shivaji Maharaj was born in 1630 at the Shivneri Fort near Pune and stayed there for 10 years with his mother Jijabai. (From Shivneri Fort, his name Shivaji was derived.)
  2. His father Shahaji used to work in Bangalore with Sultan Adilshah of Bijapur.

Shivaji was a strong headed person and did not bow down his head to Sultan. To save him from the punishment, his father Shahaji sent him back from Bangalore to Pune where he became the king.


Beware!

  1. Content
  2. Simplicity
  3. Non-violence and
  4. Let-go ('tyaagi') attitude

These characters are ideal for anybody. But at the same time, they may make you idle (not ideal, but idle) and stop your progress.


Typically marriages are decided by one of these two methods in our society:
  1. Arranged Marriage: Socially accepted and practised method where ‘offer’ for marriage is given by appropriate party and then, marriage is finalized on the basis of match-making.
  2. Love Marriage: Recently established way of selecting marriage partner after some contact, friendship and/or attraction because of looks. Here prospective partners for marriage decide themselves marry with or without consent from parents and families.
As responsible citizens of this planet, we have some duties towards her - towards our future generations. We all already know about them, I'm sure.
Every relationship needs:

  1. Compromise
  2. Nurturing and
  3. Trust, besides
  4. Love


I would like my blog readers to comment the way they understand the following:

Good nature 
is worth,
more than knowledge,
more than money and more than any honour
to those who have it.
- H W Beechar


Break verb.
  1. Interrupt
  2. To stop doing something for a while
  3. Destroy
  4. End of relation
Chain noun.
  1. Connection by links or rings
  2. Series of connected things e.g. hotels, shops
  3. Continuous connection due to attachments
Relation noun.
  1. Way in which one person is connected/associated with another
  2. Contacts or link between people, groups or countries
  3. Attachment between two because of birth, marriage or contact
Balancing two sides of relations:
  1. A son/daughter: Parents and offsprings
  2. A married woman: Parents and parents-in-laws
  3. A married son: Wife and parents
When you are any of the above, you are an in-between person. You have to be tricky, cautious and careful person in handling either side maintaining your own views or you will be in trouble. You need not be judging any, but you have to be neutral and caring both.
One year back, I was writing about myself in an article Death at 60. I wrote there I was ready to die at any time, but given a choice, I would like to wait until my father was alive. My purpose for this demand of concession was my desire to support my father morally and physically in his old age. Well, he did not agree to this and went away forever on his own. So, I can loudly pronounce now “I am ready to die!”

However, I have yet to learn how to react to someone when I disagree with them and/or my ideas differ in total from the concerned person. At present, in such situations, I keep myself away and withdraw. It can be labeled as escapism. But coming to a consensus or agreement is not always easy. Due to the generation gap or the conservative approach of parents, the difference of opinion is bound to be there. Here, both parties should take care of maintaining the dignity of the other. The ideal option is to ignore the nature of the parents and forgive them immediately.
Caution! Beware of television serials (soap operas), news channels and panel discussions on different issues. They will disturb your psyche, sleep and thought process. They will make you think and worry with stress all the while.


A vow is actually a transaction between God and a deity. Here a promise is made by an individual to God at some critical moment.

(Gujarati equivalent words are Baadha - બાધા, Akhadi, Agad, Vrat - વ્રત)


To tell, in other words, it is an oath where divine being is the recipient of the promise. Actually, God is usually understood to be granting some special favour to His devotee in return of some promise made or service offered. The troubled individual persuades God to give what he desires and help him out in time of need and crises. A vow is also a promise to offer something at once to God on getting the expected result.

OSHO's 3-step Medication Technique

1. Breathing: 10 minutes

Sit in a comfortable relaxed position with back straight at 90 degrees with the base and keep your eyes closed without pressure on lids.

Take deep breathing in and do deep breathing out for 10 minutes. Pay attention to breathing only.

2. Total acceptance and non-resistance: 10 minutes

While continuing to pay attention to breathing, you hear sounds of birds, children, vehicles and such things around. Just do not get disturbed because of noise, instead, accept them as being natural and accept them without resistance. You will feel a great depth of meditation.

3. Egolessness: 10 minutes

Being aware of sounds as accepted and paying attention to breathing, think I am nobody, think I am not anywhere and be egoless. Continue thinking that you are a droplet becoming ocean by falling into the ocean. You will feel united with GOD and feel one with GOD… a desire of many to be so.


Do this for half an hour before going to bed and get asleep. Repeat the same in the bed lying on the bed while getting up in the morning.

You will get relaxed and happy. I did this myself and found having relaxing and pleasing effects.

When you are upset or angry during day-time, do these three steps of one minute each. It is a pleasing and de-stressing experience worth trying.
Why and how should we visit our close relatives/friends? Close relatives are the best God-gift,. I would first like to talk about who they are, to start this article. They are:
  • Parents
  • Son/daughter
  • Brother/sister
  • Above relatives-in-law and
  • Close friends

Inspired by the title of the blog “I Am” of my niece Khushbu Desai, I thought I should write my views on I AM and the result follows.

I am a son.
I am a brother.
I am a husband.
I am a father.
I am an uncle.
I am father-in-law.
I am relative.
I am a friend.

Is change really easy? Let me start with the dictionary meanings of words ‘change’ and ‘easy’.

Change [cheynj] –verb
To alter
To modify
Pass from one form to another
To do something different

Easy [ee-zee] –adjective
Not difficult
Done or obtained without much effort
To move something gently and slowly
Have you read Bhagavad Gita - also known as Shrimad Bhagavad Gita? A positive answer is not much awaited and so this article - giving details in a precise and shortest way. Just read every line and try to be with me in this story-telling. I am sure you will end up with great surprises.


BHAGAVAD GITA

Here, Bhagavad means GOD. Gita means singing poetry.

The context of the story is a dialogue - conversation, taking place on the battlefield of Kurukshetra war between Lord Krishna (kṛṣṇa) and Pandava prince Arjuna.


I have used the word 'day' to tell about LIFE here.
  • What is the balance-sheet of a life made of?
  • Is it the sum total of years one lived, health, wealth one gathered or positions one held?
  • Who will then certify the statement? Oneself, crowd present in the funeral or the friends at the time of condolence meeting?
I am confused.

The modern day 'Gadget Illness: Checking Facebook, Emails, Twitter, etc. and Caller IDs of the mobile phone repeatedly, say now and then, is an illness most of the people today have. What do they search every often? It makes them slave of the gadget. Be alert!

People doing job or some business are exception in some cases.

Stress is pressure or worry resulting from mental or physical distress or difficult circumstances.

For all the intelligent, sincere and responsible individuals, stress is an outcome of one’s activity. It has to be there. All one needs is to see it as essential force for progress/development and not more than that.

One has to be a distant viewer-observer or witness to the said situation and not part of it.

How to get rid of it?
An obituary is a note published in the newspaper about someone's death. A big number of people read that first, and many times only read that much.

They are often happy knowing that their equal-aged person is dead and oneself is not dead... alive!

Some of them would want to relive the past with the dead person and again be satisfied thinking: S/he is no more, but I being a greater one, is still alive!

The pleasure is present in the death of others without any sorrow/sadness of the event. What a tragedy!
If spending money makes you angry, irritable, tense or unhappy, it is a sign showing your income is less than your own capacity to earn.You know your earning level, but your attempts need more sincerity and planning.

When one writes post/comment to express one's views on Facebook, one is addressing a big number of audience - friends, colleagues and others. So it is prudent to be careful about spelling, grammar and punctuations or it will look insulting your friends. It will show as if you are attending party without proper make-up!
After voluntary retirement as Government Medical Officer, my wife Dr Bhavana (Devyani) wanted to have a vacation and I joined her. The long break of 14 days (2 weeks) was starting on date 9th March 2011 and ending on 23rd March 2011. We planned to stay at Rahul’s (our son) residence at Bangalore and return to Bilimora.

Vacation - is stopping the continuous job/work and retire at some place at leisure. We know vacation is a change of activity and we did that. It is a recess, say a break or temporary cessation of routine work.

Is vacation necessary?
Ask yourself. "What do I really want?"

Take a piece of paper, a pencil and an eraser. Jot down, from your mind, 10 things that you want from your life (things that will make you feel happy). For example, things like:
  1. Happiness and peace of mind
  2. Being loved and well-being
  3. Good health
  4. Lots of money
  5. Loving spouse/children and their happiness
  6. Power and position in job/profession
  7. Nice house
  8. Lovely holidays
  9. Good education
  10. Good workplace

My observations at Brigade Road, M G Road, Church Street, K Kamraj Street and Commercial Street on 15-03-2011 between 4 and 9 PM:
  1. Youth are more than 90%
  2. They wear Jeans-Tshirt and shoes (both sex).
  3. 90% are coupled with opposite sex partner - with hand on the back or other partner's hand.
  4. Males have big forehead, while females have small.
  5. They love to smoke a cigarette.
  6. Most of them are busy talking on mobile.
  7. They would love using credit/debit card more than cash.
We do not fail for the want of skill per se.

We fail because of our:
  • unconsciousness,
  • permanent unease (restlessness),
  • lack of concentration, and
  • sometimes, lack of interest in the work we do.
Then, all one needs for success in whatever one does is:
Continued from: Computer Vision Syndrome

The most typical symptom of Computer Vision Syndrome (or CVS) is 'Dry eye'. Most common factors that can cause 'Dry eye' are:
  • Decreased blink rate
  • Lid conditions
  • High gaze angle
  • Low humidity
  • Contaminants in environment
  • Air conditioner vents
If you use a computer, it’s a reason enough for you to read this article. This is the first article of two-part series on Computer Vision Syndrome.

The information is extracted from Dr. Vineet Ratra’s (DNB FRCS) presentation in All India Ophthalmological Conference 2011. Dr. Ratra is Senior Consultant at Sankara Nethralaya, Chennai.

Computer Vision Syndrome (CVS)

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What is the ideal amount to be given with 'blessings' at the time of someone's wedding? 101.. 151.. 251... 501 or more?




No amount is OK... Ideal is zero!

Your relationship is priceless... no need of being pseudo-formal.





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Interesting Message on Valentine's Day:
I want to love so many people simultaneously and unconditionally... but I cannot do with each and everyone that come across. To the extent, I start hating some only on my impression after seeing someone.


Facebook users grading, in my opinion:
  1. Expresses one's views on different subjects and responds to friends with comments.
  2. Only gives comments to Facebook material by friends.
  3. Only clicks like button when likes, but does not tell one's views
  4. Opens Facebook and reads, but then silent.
  5. Never sees Facebook, someone/oneself has started FB account, that's all!
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An ophthalmologist by qualification and profession, Dr. Bharatchandra Desai loves reading about history, religion, and spirituality. He has written about them and also about 'Anavils' at length.

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When I started writing on my blog, I used to ask myself if I should write at all. If yes, why? I would like to share my views on this topic with you.
I write for myself. This may sound egoistic, but it is self-explanatory as well. Because I want freedom from my thought cycle, I get mental catharsis by just writing out whatever it is. While having some serious events with myself, say the death of my mother first and then father, writing down makes a record of my emotions at a given time which I’m never going to repeat.
I do write for my daughter Vaishali, son Rahul and their friends. I want to tell my experiences and let them know about me. I have done this in Life At 60 article series – it is my mini-autobiography, telling all about me. Article on Marriage, Parents in old-age homes, etc. are other such articles.

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